The Radical Act of kindness: Choosing Compassion Over Aggression
You likely wouldn’t rely on me in a physical confrontation, or to navigate a ruthless power struggle. That’s because a deeply ingrained, aggressive instinct simply isn’t part of my nature.
Though, full transparency: I still manage household pests, and admittedly harbor fleeting frustrations with injustice and those in positions of power. It’s a continuous process of self-improvement.
over time, I’ve developed a profound respect for those who pause before inflicting harm, resisting the tempting logic of “the ends justify the means.” For me, extending compassion – weather to a lanternfly, through a plant-based diet, or by refraining from gossip – is a conscious affirmation of the kindness and grace our world desperately needs, rather than simply reacting with aggression towards anything perceived as “other.”
Practicing a Different Path
Years spent immersed in aggressive video games, decades observing adversarial politics, and the societal expectations placed on men all contributed to a certain mindset. Fortunately, practices like meditation, specifically lovingkindness meditation, have helped me cultivate a greater sense of softness.
Lovingkindness, or Metta, involves silently wishing happiness and safety upon all beings, even those with whom you struggle. It’s a deliberate shift in perspective.
Now, when I encounter a lanternfly, I find myself experiencing a surprising sense of connection, recognizing its vulnerability and inherent beauty. Here are two practical ways you can explore this shift in your own life:
* Recognize Justifications for Harm: pay attention to internal narratives like “I don’t have time for this,” “they deserve it,” or “it’s for the best.” These are signals to pause and reflect.
* Embrace Your Instinct to Care: When your mind begins constructing a rationale for withholding kindness or generosity, take a breath. Choose the simpler, more compassionate path: act with kindness now.
Kindness as a Form of Resistance
The internal struggle against aggression surfaces in everyday moments. It’s the same feeling when faced with rude service and deciding how to tip, or when a family member or colleague is demanding, yet later seeks your help.
In these instances, you have a choice: vengeance or kindness.
The more I tune into the physical sensations of aggression within my body, the clearer it becomes which choice steers me away from the person I aspire to be. And, crucially, which choice aligns with the world I believe we all want to inhabit.
Why is this notable?
Cultivating kindness isn’t about weakness; it’s about strength. It’s a deliberate rejection of reactive patterns and a commitment to building a more compassionate world. It’s a powerful form of resistance against the forces that promote division and harm.
Beyond the Individual:
This practice extends beyond personal interactions. Consider how choosing kindness can influence your approach to:
* political Discourse: Engaging in respectful dialog, even with those holding opposing views.
* Environmental Stewardship: Recognizing the interconnectedness of all living things and acting accordingly.
* Social justice: Advocating for equity and compassion in systems and policies.
The Ripple Effect:
Choosing kindness isn’t always easy. It requires conscious effort and a willingness to challenge ingrained patterns. However, the ripple effect of even small acts of compassion can be profound. You have the power to create a more peaceful and just world, one mindful choice at a time.
Ultimately, embracing kindness isn’t just a personal practice; it’s a radical act of resistance, and a vital step towards building a future worthy of our shared humanity.
